How do I learn to let my teenagers grow up?

I have always been Mom. I work, then go home to my kids. I don't think I will survive without them at home. How do you function as a person without your kids to be there to push you.How do I learn to let my teenagers grow up?
Although it is hard and really scarry kids grow up no matter how much we wish that they would stay little and cute...All we can do as mothers is hope and pray that all the things we have taught them will sink in when they do become of age and move out.


I have a 16, 15, 9 and 5 yr old. And I am scared for them in this world to have to deal with every day life, because it isn't easy, but I am confident that they will make the right decisions. Take my 16 yr. old, she is more concerned about her education and her future then dating. My 15 yr. old is a boy and into sports and that is his goal in his life is to become a professional football player and my husband and I encourage him. My 9 yr old want to become a dancer and singer and we do everything we can to oblige her career choice that she has now. My 5 yr old plain just want to be a good mommy for now, will change as she grows up. My point is that as a parent watching your children grow up all we can do is allow and encourage them in their dreams. And although we don't want them to grow up and move away, we as parents have to, but if we have a close relationship they will never be far from us and will always remain in our thoughts, prayers, and hearts. Don't be afraid cuz no matter what you will ALWAYS be momHow do I learn to let my teenagers grow up?
You just have to build up trust and punish when they do something bad. It might be hard, but they will grow up sometime soon. You need to get a dog or cat, take an arobics class at your local rec center,or find a hobby with some friends. You're just going to have to do what you have to to deal.
You need to get a life of your own...do not live thru your kids...do you not have a spouse???do fun things,travel,buy make memories now with them...don't worry how it's gonna be in what 3 or 4 yrs down the road...get out and live...or you will wake up and wonder where your life went...and your kids never really leave you...sometimes they move back in(lol)
You reconnect with who you were before they were born. You do the things you've missed. You remember that you're still a role model for them and that, if you don't ';get a life'; your relationship with them will be spoiled. Either you'll live through them, which invests you in their success and failure so much that they can't mature, or you'll be needy and either resentful that they don't spend as much time with you as you want or aware that they're resentful at having to ';take care of poor, lonely Mom.';
I felt the very same way. While they are teenagers you need to start letting them make simple decisions. If they stumble and fall you help them up and dust them off. If they come to you for guidance you listen and help. Don't push them out of the nest, but when they feel it's time, let them go but always be by the phone. Communication is the most important thing.
You develop your own interests, you get a hobby, you get a social circle. Go to a gym, join a book club, learn who you are and what you want outside of being ';mom'; it will make you more interesting and happier in the long run! Good luck, you can do it you have alot to offer on your own.