What are your views on teenagers viewing pornography?

Is it just a ';healthy, normal part of growing up'; that all teen boys do or does it give an unhealthy perception on sex and women that teen boys don't need placed in their head?





Thoughts? Would you accept your teen son (or even daughter) looking at pornography?What are your views on teenagers viewing pornography?
Porn sites are not allowed in my home


and if I find porn in my foster son's room I remove it and talk to him about it





I have not found any yet but he's only 14. I would not accept anyone in my house viewing porn unless they are over 18What are your views on teenagers viewing pornography?
I would accept limited viewing, like a playboy mag hidden somewhere or something.





I dont have a problem with porn, and view it myself. My problem is that most porn gives a very unreal perception of what sex is and how it happens in the real world. Its a fantasy, and I think its easy for someone with no real world experience to confuse that fantasy with reality.





On the other hand I know that teenagers have a sex drive and I fully promote masturbation as a healthy alternative to having sex. And I know teenagers are curious about things. So, maybe I would allow a mag or something, but I would NOT allow unlimited access to porn.
I'm sooooo with Midnight on this one, couldn't have expressed my views better. I understand that all boys/men look at porn, and am FINE with that. I would MUCH rather my son look at a magazine than crap on the internet, tho. Things were soooo innocent when Playboy was around. Now, there are so many deplorable images/things that it make me sick! I can only hope that my husband and I will instill the respect for women that we also hold.
When I was 17, I was testing the boundaries abit. At one point I told my mother I was going to move to Nevada and be a whore when I turned 18. The anticipation as I waited for her to blow up was almost too much. When she didn't even look up from her book to reply, ';Be sure to charge extra since you're naturally built.'; it kinda took the wind out of my sales.





Shortly there after, again looking to get a rise out of her, I asked to borrow the car so I could go buy a playgirl. She handed me the keys, and nonchalantly asked if she could borrow it after I was done. Haven't bought one since.





I swear, that woman knew how to take the ';fun'; out of most anything. Her lack of response really helped settle me.





When my son gets a little older, and I inevitably find that stack of Playboys under his bed, I'm not going to have a cow, I'll simply organize them by month and year, and stack them neatly on his nightstand for him.





I do, however, have a problem with internet porn. Most of it is just nasty, some downright disturbed, and some of it illegal. I don't want him using my computer, and my dsl to hunt for that crap, as I am liable for what he does.





Many years ago, my ex had a teenage son, aged 15, knew I still used the computer in his room, and yet still tried to lock me out of it. I became curious, and went digging, sure enough, in a file marked, ';Private Stuff'; (who did he think he was kidding?) I found a bunch of porn. His mom was very religious and I knew she'd have a cow if she found out about it. I didn't delete the files. I didn't have a cow. I did decide those girls looked a tad bit cold. So I took them into Photoshop and ';dressed'; them. Those that were beyond dressing, I turned in to abstract art. We never did find any porn on his computer again.
I think most teens look at porn more out of curiosity then for some sort of sexual pleasure, and that it's fine if it's just something that happens once and a while. I watched a short clip on PornTube once with friends because it was just so ridiculous it was comical; I mean the character's name was Lexxx Luther. It was more like the way you watch a really absurd video on YouTube just to laugh. It wasn't a thrill for us at all.





Sometimes it's not even a deliberate choice to see porn. I went to a site once for insults in foreign languages (as a joke) and was stunned to see graphic porn pop right up on the screen without any warning.





It's unhealthy if it's an obsessive habit. If the boy was watching porn on a daily or even weekly basis it would be detrimental.





Edit: Just wanted to add that I am 17, and have never known a single person my age who hasn't seen porn at some point. It's rather naive of any parent to think their kid hasn't seen at least a glimpse of it by the time they've finished high school. As far as I know, none of us sexual deviants or miscreants. Most are fully aware that it is fantasy, not reality, and could quite frankly care very little about it. It's not something to focus on or get riled up over so long as it's not a habit. If given the choice between watching porn or reading Jane Austen, I'd pick the book Pride %26amp; Prejudice, not a seedy porn with a title like Prick %26amp; Prejudice. Focus on the things you should get your kid to do - like reading - rather than on the things you want to forbid.
There are so many kinds of porn that I'd have to say being discriminatory about it would make me feel better as a parent and since we don't have it in the house (personal reasons not really moral ones), they won't see it here (unless my husband has a stash out in the garage). I will do my part to teach respect of women and that body types are varied and 34 24 36 or whatever it is may be attractive to some, it's not the only beautiful body type. I realize teens get horny and if that someone prevented them from reckless sex, then maybe that's a positive....
I was always curious as a teen, as were all my girlfriends. We tricked boys into dropping their pants, sneaked looks at our dads playboy collections, spied on older brother, stupid stuff like that. Silly and maybe innappropriate, but normal, healthy curiosity, that didn't scar any of us, or give us unrealistic expectations.





A lot of the porn teens are using now, is free, online, amateur stuff- couples that find it a turn on to post their bedroom exploits online. So not really unrealistic expectations. It's not the airbrushed, photoshopped, guy with a 10 inch penis, and perfect blonde with no waist and 34D's. It's normal couples, normal sex, and much more realistic.





Would I accept it? I don't know. I wouldn't be mad. We would talk about it. Come to a decision. I haven't been put in that situation yet, so I don't know what I would or wouldn't do!
I know I am in the minority here, but I feel it is bad for a person to view porn...whether it be a teen or an adult. I believe it skews any person's view of sex, even if they don't believe it to do so. And a teens mind is still forming...why throw porn into the mix when his/her hormones and emotions are already crazy.
Oh, yeah, sure, I'll even buy it for him.





Come off it, somethings you are not going to be able to stop completely (kids looking at nude mags or porn flics) but does anyone really want to condone such behavior? That's like saying, ';Well, my kid is gonna get drunk anyways, better he get drunk at home.'; Pfft, I don't think so.
seeing as I was forced to watch porn for the first time at 13, with my mom of all things, i would say i would kinda hope that people can wait until the kid is at least 16 or able to handle it.
It depends the age and how much. If it was like a magazine or like once a month they watched a soft core porn on the computer or something I wouldn't be too worried.