At what point should parents let teenagers make their own choices?

It seems like some parents let their children exercise their independence, living and learning. Others seem to think that they're supposed to control their teenager and never let them make decisions.


What do you think?At what point should parents let teenagers make their own choices?
I have encouraged the development of decision making skills since my children were little. It started with simple things like laying out two shirts and letting them decide. As they have grown up, I have allowed them more complex decisions. Learning to make the right decisions is very important.





However, if you are talking about decisions that endanger their health, welfare or future, those are not decisions that will be left up to them until they are old enough to be able to handle the consequences. These would include decisions like substance use/abuse, curfews, and hygiene/personal appearance. When they are old enough to pay the consequences for bad decisions, meaning they are on their own and out of my house, I will hope that I have laid the foundation for them to choose to do the right thing.At what point should parents let teenagers make their own choices?
I think children should be allowed to make their own decisions up to a point. If a person never is able to make their own decisions then they will never learn and wouldn't be able to make it in the real world without mommy and daddy telling them to put on their coat because its chilly outside lol. Parents sometimes need to tell their kids to do this and to not do this and everything and other times parents can ';make suggestions'; for kids like just by making a comment like ';its chilly out'; and maybe ';i'm wearing my coat today. are you going to?'; And sometimes parents just need to let their kids make some simple bad decisions and deal with the consequenses. But parents shouldnt be as lax if a child was saying like their gonna do drugs or fight for no good reason.
After raising teenagers myself, I realized that there are many right ways and wrong ways. Depending on the teenager and how grown up they are would make your choice as a parent more certain. Some teens can make decisions more like a adult, and depending on the situation. I have read several books on raising today's teenager and would suggest one below.
Being a michevious girl when I was a child, I believe you should let them make their own choice when they feel like they can branch off. A slip-up in behavior will just make the privilages go smaller. Just try 1 privilage like what to eat at lunch and what clothes to wear. Then when and when not to call their friends or be on the computer.
I think that as long as a teen is in a safe and controlled environment while making choices, as well as having the appropriate judgment, then they should be able to make as many of their own choices as possible.
As children become more mature (not just older), their independence should increase gradually. However, Mom and Dad do have the final say in things until the child is 18 AND out of the house.
I hate saying this but, As long as they live under the parents roof, and the parents are supporting them. They really don't have much of too many choices
I let them make decisions and have for a long time. The only thing is that I have veto power.
When they are ready to move out and live on their own.